When I first took up the management job, nobody told me that I needed to watch out for my habits that can have a serious impact on my team’s productivity and performance. My intent was right—I wanted to do well in my role while also helping my team grow. However, without paying attention to how I came across to others or how I communicated, I did not always act in ways that were best for me and my team.

Instead of pushing my team towards excellence, I subjected them to unattainable high standards. In trying to achieve harmony, I unconsciously promoted seeking consensus over healthy disagreements. To protect my team’s feelings, I softened the feedback instead of giving tough love. By keeping the team busy with urgent asks, I prevented them from working on long-term requests. I also refused to trust my team with complex tasks and preferred to do them myself because I was too afraid of failing or them not meeting my expectations.

I thought I was doing everything right because no one told me otherwise. I made many mistakes before I realized how my habits were negatively impacting my team.

Leaders should never be satisfied. They must always strive to improve, and they must build that mind-set into the team. They must face the facts through a realistic, brutally honest assessment of themselves and their team’s performance.

― Jocko Willink

Here are the habits every manager must actively avoid to build a strong team:

Tolerating Bad Behavior

How do you handle bad behavior in the team? Do you actively work to eliminate such behavior or turn a blind eye, especially if these people are high performers who have an uncanny ability to produce outstanding work?

Tolerating their toxic behavior—getting agitated when others make mistakes, expecting them to work at their pace, passing sarcastic remarks, challenging their intelligence, belittling their skills, or demeaning them when things don’t work out the way they expected—conveys the message that such behavior is acceptable and anybody can get away with it.

This can happen in two ways:

• Passive enabler: Passively enabling these behaviors by failing to notice them and staying ignorant of the effect they have on your team.
• Active enabler: Actively contributing to it by delaying action—waiting for more proof, ignoring the conflict, worrying about losing them. You may also try to rationalize the situation by convincing yourself that things aren’t that bad after all or they are too minor to be noticed.

Sometimes really talented people have heard for so long how great they are, they begin to feel they really are better than everybody else. They might smirk at ideas they find unintelligent, roll their eyes when people are inarticulate, and insult those they feel are less gifted than they are. In other words, these people are jerks. Many may think, “This guy is so brilliant, we can’t afford to lose him.” But it doesn’t matter how brilliant your jerk is. The cost of jerkiness to effective teamwork is too high. Jerks are likely to rip your organization apart from the inside.

— Reed Hastings

To avoid this habit:

1. Don’t put off or delay difficult conversations—especially when it involves toxic behavior. It will only get worse and won’t disappear on its own.
2. Be careful about the words you choose. Emotionally charged words can trigger negative emotions and put them on the defensive.
3. Share your observations, talk about the impact, and invite them to come up with a solution.
4. Leave the feedback with clear expectations on the desired changes, timeline, and repercussions of not taking the feedback seriously.

Stop tolerating bad behavior for too long before addressing it. The overall damage done to the team is highly expensive. Create a healthy work environment where your team can flourish and thrive.

Refusing to delegate hard problems.

Do you assign work based on your team’s current knowledge and experience? Do you give them tasks they already know how to do? Do you only delegate responsibilities that match their current skill set?

Delegation not only enables you as a manager to get more done, but it’s also an excellent opportunity to expand your team’s skill set. However, if you limit their scope to work they already know how to do well, they’ll never build the skills required to excel at the next level. Without the opportunity to navigate challenges, they’ll never develop creative thinking skills. Without facing obstacles, they’ll not build the resilience to continue and not give up. Without dealing with the expectations to perform at the next level, they’ll not learn how to handle stress and pressure.

Failing to delegate not only keeps you super busy with work that could have been handled by your team, but it also conveys a message that you don’t trust them enough. Lack of trust, lack of opportunities, and lack of support turn into frustration and resentment within team members—they start doing the bare minimum just to get by, or those who can’t take it quit. Team performance takes a dip when you prefer doing things yourself instead of giving a chance to your team to learn and stretch.

Your role as a manager is not to do the work yourself, even if you are the best at it, because that will only take you so far. Your role is to improve the purpose, people, and process of your team to get as high a multiplier effect on your collective outcome as you can.

― Julie Zhuo

To avoid this habit:

1. Identify work that people in your team might be well suited to perform based on their potential, not current skill set.
2. When delegating, provide complete clarity on the expectations, requirements, and measurable success criteria.
3. Be around to support and guide. Delegation does not imply abdication; you’re still responsible for the outcomes your team achieves.
4. Whenever you decide to do something yourself, ensure it’s actually meant for you. Don’t let fear of not meeting expectations or a sense of perfectionism get in the way of effective delegation.

Make delegation your primary strategy. Build a team that trusts you with their growth—give them challenging work that will require them to stretch, build new skills, and develop courage and conviction. Delegate and empower. Don’t limit their potential.

Engaging in finger-pointing and blame games.

When things go wrong at work or don’t work out as expected, what’s your first reaction? Do you blame others? Do you complain and jump to fault-finding? Do you use sarcasm, belittling, or other deprecating behaviors to express your dissatisfaction and disappointment?

Blaming and complaining make you spend time and energy justifying the result, criticizing people, or repeating concerns while not paying attention to the problem or working out a solution that will move your team forward. Your negativity and the attitude to target others and disparage them for failures don’t stop with you; your team learns to use it as an excuse too—problems linger on, long debates ensue, and delivery deadlines are missed as finger-pointing and blame-shifting become the norm of the day. Team productivity and performance take a hit as more time is spent in escalating problems than resolving them.

Refusal to accept blame, pointing fingers at others, and wimpy language can help bosses keep their jobs for a while, but it usually backfires in the long run. No matter what is said, bosses are seen as responsible for what their people do.

― Robert I. Sutton

To avoid this habit, shift to solutioning mode:

1. What problem exists?
2. What did you do or not do that caused this to occur?
3. What solutions have you tried?
4. What worked, what didn’t work?
5. Do you need a new strategy?
6. Can you experiment?
7. What other alternatives have you not considered yet?

Stop acting as a victim. Stop promoting a defeatist mindset. Channel your team’s energy into problem-solving instead.

Giving vague and indirect feedback.

When giving feedback, do you clearly state the behavior or action that needs to be repeated or must be stopped? Do you highlight what’s valued at work and what’s not tolerated? Do you give a clear direction on the changes people must make to be more effective at work?

Vague feedback or a fleeting comment is easy to overlook or misunderstand, and it leaves people feeling confused, upset, and frustrated. Feedback like “That was great.” “Nice work.” “You need to communicate better.” or “Your presentation sucked.” doesn’t require much thinking or effort. You give it, you forget about it, and so does the other person. Without detailing out what you liked or disliked about your team’s work, you cannot expect them to take any action. Such feedback makes you feel good—you think you did your part of the job—but it does nothing to advance your team in the direction of their goals.

Radical Candor is what happens when managers show that they care personally for employees while also challenging them directly with clear, kind feedback that is not aggressive or insincere.
— Kim Scott

To avoid this habit:

1. Give specific feedback by crafting a thoughtful message that’s easy to understand and apply. It shouldn’t be ambiguous or leave the other person guessing.
2. State what they did, what worked or did not work, and the corresponding impact so that they’re encouraged to repeat good behaviors and give up on the ones that push them back.
3. If team members don’t improve despite giving feedback, don’t blame them or label them ineffective. Focus on delivering feedback that’s actionable, not vague.

When you give feedback, be as specific as possible. Ambiguity leaves team members guessing and blocks real improvement.

Promoting groupthink mentality.

Do you steer conversations away from conflict, prioritize harmony over debate, and intervene to smooth things over when team members disagree, voice differences of opinion, or challenge assumptions? Do you send the message that raising uncomfortable truths may lead to friction rather than progress? Do you promote groupthink mentality—seeking consensus and suppressing your team’s energy to lean into discomfort and rise above the challenge?

When groupthink mentality prevails, people stop voicing concerns. They nod along in meetings, but privately disengage. Diplomacy takes priority over honesty, consensus over clarity, and safety over bold decisions. When managers avoid tension, teams learn to avoid it too. They make decisions that are comfortable in the short-term, even though it leads to long-term stagnation. High performers disengage, sensing that challenge and complexity are unwelcome.

Consensus is horrible. I mean, if everyone really agrees on something and consensus comes about quickly and naturally, well that’s terrific. But that isn’t how it usually works, and so consensus becomes an attempt to please everyone.

― Patrick Lencioni

To avoid this habit:

1. Encourage teams to stay curious rather than reactive when opinions clash.
2. Set ground rules for constructive disagreements and allow them to sit with tension instead of rushing to resolve it.
3. Teach people that discomfort is not a signal to retreat, but an invitation to listen more openly, engage more thoughtfully, deepen understanding and arrive at breakthrough solutions that wouldn’t emerge in the absence of constructive tension.

Constructive tension is not something to be feared—it’s a catalyst for clarity, creativity and progress. Create space for deeper dialogue and better decisions by inviting discomfort and resisting the urge to smooth things over quickly.

Playing it safe.

How do you make decisions when there’s ambiguity or uncertainty involved or when the path ahead has many unknowns and challenges? Do you reject risky opportunities and stick to the familiar? Do you ignore creative ideas and lean towards solutions that have worked before? Do you choose safety over growth?

You can minimize chances of failure by sticking to the known, but letting fear of failure or making mistakes prevent you from investing in growth opportunities signals a need for invulnerability and perfection. Playing safe conveys the message that risk-taking behavior is not supported or encouraged.  Soon, team members make safety their goal too. They stop sharing unconventional ideas, start leaning towards tried-and-tested approaches, try to hide mistakes, and let go of opportunities that require taking a risk.

Don't be in the business of playing it safe. Be in the business of creating possibilities of greatness.

― Robert Iger

To avoid this habit:

1. Establish clear boundaries on the kind of risks your team can take on their own, risks that require your involvement and risks that are out of scope.
2. Frame failures and mistakes as opportunities to learn—identify what went wrong, why it occurred, and the measures that need to be put in place to prevent it from happening again.
3. Devise experimentation strategies to minimize the impact of uncertainty and make more data-driven decisions.
4. Support making choices with long-term growth, not those that relieve short-term pain.
5. Encourage speaking up, sharing disagreements, and voicing differences of opinion to evaluate different perspectives before locking down on a decision.

Growth can never be risk-free. Risk-taking appetite is built by actually taking risks, not sitting inside a comfort zone. Safety brings comfort, but it also limits growth.

Masking true focus with false urgency.

Do you spend more time firefighting than building products, more energy on short-term wins than long-term success, and more effort in being tactful than thinking strategically? Is there constant pressure around every issue, a rush to decide and chaos in prioritizing as everything deserves immediate attention?

False urgency creates a sense of busyness without creating momentum—with confusion, half-baked solutions, wasted effort, and exhaustion. When urgency is falsified rather than grounded in real business needs, teams operate like a mad powerhouse—people on the team keep running in many different directions without actually reaching anywhere. Jumping from one task to another and being in a constant state of overwhelm and reactivity can drain team energy, increase stress, and can even lead to burnout. When employees don’t get time to do deep work or experience the joy and pleasure of being in a state of flow, they feel unhappy, stuck, and dissatisfied.

The paradox of short-term thinking is that it often ends up being more damaging and more expensive than longer-term thinking.

― Roger Spitz

To avoid this habit:

1. Ruthlessly separate what is “urgent” from what is “important.” Use team time to focus on strategic issues, not just firefighting.
2. Create space for reflection, debate, and long-term planning. Slowing down may feel uncomfortable, but it prevents costly mistakes.
3. Instead of chasing quick wins, set clear success measures tied to impact, not just activity. This keeps the team focused on results over appearances.
4. Whenever a new crisis shows up, pause to ask: Is this truly urgent or just noise? Encourage leaders to push back on false alarms.

Mindless busyness due to a false sense of urgency does not lead to progress; it only adds to stress.

Expecting your team to take urgent requests seriously and attend to them in a timely manner isn’t wrong. It’s counterproductive when every other request is given a high priority, and the team is expected to jump at the chance.

Reacting with unchecked emotions

How do you show up when pressure is high, expectations aren’t met, or communication breaks down? Is there visible tension in your voice, a hint of disappointment in your tone, or impatience in your body language?

Unchecked emotions like irritation, sarcasm, defensiveness, or emotional withdrawal shake people’s confidence. They start worrying about saying or doing things that might trigger an emotional outburst. This makes them hide mistakes, choose words carefully, and play safe as they try to stay out of your way.

Whether it’s showing frustration in a meeting that disregards your views, aggressive tone in an email that challenges your authority, raising your voice when someone disagrees with you, or passive-aggressive behavior when things don’t go well, these moments don’t just pass away—they linger in the minds of those around you. Your presence becomes associated with emotional reactivity, making people hesitant to lean on you.

Big emotions—like anger, fear, and sadness—can be really uncomfortable. But even uncomfortable feelings are okay. In fact, all emotions are okay. It just takes practice to manage uncomfortable emotions so you can respond in a healthy way.

― Jessica Speer

To avoid this habit:

1. Stay calm in pressure-filled moments, grounded in discomfort, and manage your emotions when things get tough.
2. Instead of suppressing emotions, regulate them—acknowledge them without letting them drive your behavior.
3. Consciously create space between stimulus and response. Respond with intention rather than impulse.

Visible frustration, defensiveness, or emotional outbursts unsettle teams. Demonstrate emotional steadiness, especially in high-pressure moments.

Modeling burnout instead of self-care

Do you take pride in working 24/7 and never taking time off? Does work always take priority over other commitments and goals in life? Do you expect your team to be 100% committed to their jobs?

Pushing all aspects of personal life to the back burner just to do a remarkable job, earn accolades and recognition has multiple negative consequences in the long-run. Disappointment, frustration, and dissatisfaction from ignoring other parts of life seeps in and eventually catches up with people. Tasks take longer to complete as team members struggle to maintain focus and efficiency; fatigue and burnout kick in, which leads to poor work quality and increases the risk of errors and mistakes.

We are socialized into systems that cause us to conform and believe our worth is connected to how much we can produce. Our constant labor becomes a prison that allows us to be disembodied. We become easy for the systems to manipulate, disconnected from our power as divine beings and hopeless. We forget how to dream. This is how grind culture continues. We internalize the lies and in turn become agents of an unsustainable way of living.

— Tricia Hersey

To avoid this habit:

1. Encourage your team to set boundaries and ensure those boundaries are respected.
2. Coach your team to limit time spent in meetings so that they have plenty of time during the day to work on important stuff.
3. Don’t expect your team to accommodate everything without realigning and reshuffling priorities. Unrealistic workloads aren’t sustainable in the long run.
4. Your words and actions convey silent expectations. Work habits that you follow yourself get passed to your team. Set a good example for your team. Be a positive role model.

Encourage taking time off to recharge and rest. Stop glorifying the hustle mentality, which promotes toxic productivity. Seek balance, not burnout.

Summary

1. Ignoring bad behavior conveys the message that toxicity has no consequence. It impacts the team's morale as people feel mistreated, undermined, and undervalued. Stop ignoring toxicity. Set clear guidelines on what behavior is acceptable and what won’t be tolerated.
2. Refusing to delegate hard problems conveys the message that you don’t trust your team with complexity. It prevents them from building skills that will lead to their growth. Stop assigning work within their comfort zone. Challenge them to embrace difficulty.
3. Blaming and complaining convey the message that accountability has no value. It makes people operate with problem focus instead of adopting a solutioning goal. Stop acting as a victim. Promote a sense of responsibility and ownership.
4. Giving unclear feedback conveys the message that feedback has no value. It makes people ignore feedback as they can’t really act on it. Stop giving vague and indirect feedback. Be specific, make it actionable.
5. Seeking consensus conveys the message that independent views are disregarded. It makes people nod in agreement even when they disagree. Stop seeking harmony. Promote healthy disagreements.
6. Leaning towards comfortable opportunities conveys the message that risk-taking behavior is not supported. It makes people stick to the familiar without navigating the uncharted territory. Stop playing safe. Start embracing unknowns within boundaries.
7. Expecting everything to be done at a priority conveys the message that everything is urgent. It makes people waste time on inconsequential tasks while ignoring important activities. Stop creating a false notion of urgency. Plan and prioritize well.
8. Becoming unpredictable and highly emotional under pressure conveys the message to others to stay out of your way. It makes them worry about how you’ll react to anything they say or do. Stop being emotionally reactive. Handle pressure with calm and poise.
9. Working long hours and on weekends conveys the message that personal goals don’t matter. It makes people feel burnt out and exhausted. Stop promoting hustle culture. Seek balance, not burnout.

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