I’ve always felt slightly awkward in social situations. Not completely anxious, but there’s always that quiet background noise in my head during conversations.

Things like wondering if I’m standing weird, whether I spoke too much, or replaying something I said later.

For a long time I tried reading advice about confidence and communication. But most of it seemed to focus on optimizing behavior. Eye contact, posture, tone, gestures.

The problem is that thinking about all those things during a conversation just made me more self-conscious.

So recently I started experimenting with a different idea.

Instead of trying to “fix” everything, I focused on very tiny habits. Small daily reps that slowly make social situations feel more natural without constantly analyzing myself.

Things like simple exposure habits or reducing the habit of replaying conversations afterward.

Personally it feels lighter than trying to optimize every interaction. But I’m not sure if I’m looking at this the right way.

Because of that I started putting these ideas into a small structure for myself, just to see if practicing it consistently actually helps.

Before I go deeper into it, I’d really value honest opinions.

Does this approach make sense to you if you’ve struggled with social awkwardness? Or am I missing something important here?

Would appreciate genuine thoughts.