I’m dealing with someone in my social circle who has been targeting me for months. She subtly spreads rumors, twists stories, and frames normal things I do in a negative way. She also lies, alot about me knowing i cannot defend myself. This Girls the kind of girl who will always always always be talking smack about a friend behind thier back but be with them the very next day. The worst part is she recruits others to dislike me too not just passively, but actively getting people to join in on her side to the point where many of my close friends have distanced ALOT.

I never wronged her. This all started when I got married and was simply living my life. She seems to thrive on being the center of attention (“it girl” vibes) and having control over the group narrative. Most people think she’s charming and fun, but I’ve seen the manipulative side — and so have my closest friends (the ones not friends with her)

Confrontation hasn’t worked; if anything, it feeds her, and makes her talk more smack about me. I want to implement a strategy where she gets bored of me as a target and moves on, without me completely isolating myself from the wider group.

my personal reading of her: the minute i got into a relationship, the day after i announced it was the day she started trying to make groupchats without me and leave me out. She has always wanted to have a man but has failed at her attempts and maybe shes jealous? she sees me travelling too, something she really wants and i guess her only way of control over my life is socially where she loves to exlude me

My goals:

1. Make myself uninteresting for her to talk about

2. Quietly rebuild my reputation/social capital so her influence fades over time

also, has anyone seen people like this actually get thier karma? im SO done with watching her talk about her friends, as well have targets (like me currently, but there have been others in the past for her, mostly her close friends)